Dealing with your Stress
Stress is a very real but normally hidden cost on society at large, but it falls very heavily on the individual in particular.
The effects of stress include poor motivation, a series of minor illnesses, depression, poor family relationships and a loss of the all important zest for life.
While stress is a serious matter (which left untreated can lead to mental and physical disorder) experience has shown that an understanding of the mechanism of stress, coupled with simple methods of relaxation, can help a person to control its effects.
How do we control stress?
Awareness is the key to control…
You cannot correct anything until you realise there’s something wrong. Observation or honest self-analysis is needed to start to minimise the consequences of stress.
Only then can solutions or strategies be found to remove causes, or if there are none available to you then an acceptance can best be achieved through proper relaxation.
Additional methods for reducing stress might include talking it out with a friend or a confidante.
Also try writing down the causes and your feelings - it may help you find a solution or allow you to accept reality.
When you feel the stress building, throw yourself into some work that you enjoy doing, even though at the outset you may not feel like starting
Laugh it off; see if you can find the funny side of the situation.
Learn self Hypnosis for relaxation and as a way to reframe your mind about the way you see your stressors.
A word about Worry
What you are and what you have, is created from 10% of your mental ability but a lot of our mental energy is consumed by the effort we put into worry.
Don’t waste time worrying.
Worrying is debilitating. If you analyse the things that you worry about you will find:
40% are never likely to happen.
30% are about things that have happened in the past - there’s no point worrying about them.
12% are needless concerns about health.
10% are petty-not worthy of our time and concern.
8% are legitimate. Some of these we can solve. Some are beyond our ability to solve.
When you face up to it you realise that 92% of worry is unnecessary.
Remember the foremost function of the mind is to solve problems.
I repeat successful people are not people without problems they are people who have learned how to solve them.
Your mind is the only thing that can get you there.
So change your mind.
Motivate yourself out of Stress
Psychology Online reports on a study investigating the differences between INTERNAL and EXTERNAL MOTIVATION. The report states that "Although our society is largely extrinsically-motivated by external rewards such as money, fame and power, research has indicated those who are intrinsically-motivated by inner desires for creativity, fulfillment and inner satisfaction are psychologically healthier and happier."
How can this help you?
The study of health psychology seeks to understand how our ability to cope with stress can help us to prevent illness and promote health. Some of these coping mechanisms are naturally inborn but may be taught to those who lack them. Motivation is one of the tools that researchers are trying to use as a combatant of negative stress reactions.
Motivation is something that we use every day. It's what enables us to survive - to get food because we're hungry, to go to work to pay the bills or to educate ourselves in order to pursue a higher goal in life.
How we respond to life's demands can affect our overall health. How are you classified?
The same report on Psychology Online identified those who respond to life with negativity or anxiety as most likely to deal with the physical affects of anger, guilt, nervousness, frustration and fear. These emotions can cause hypertension and high blood pressure which can lead to heart attack or stroke. Other complications include ulcers, arthritis, asthma and kidney disease.
Some therapists suggest that by using positive self-talk and trying to restructure the WAY we look at events can offset the physical and mental effects of dealing with negative or stressful events in life.
Interestingly, people who tend to focus on themselves as the controller of their fate - in fact 'self-motivated' - are more likely to feel a sense of control when stressors affect them. Instead of blaming something or someone else they have the motivation to deal with a problem and look for a reasonable solution. This positive behavior helps them to achieve goals and find personal contentment.
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